Dealing With The Affair

Tips For Victims Of Cheating And Adultery And How To Deal With The Affair:

All throughout the world, unfaithfulness could very well lead to the destruction of a relationship, the end of a love and trust that took years to build, and the heartache of more than just one person. Despite such risk cheating continues to exist.



After the initial shock of finding out, you have hard decisions to make. Once the affair is out in the open, you need to decide whether to work on rebuilding your relationship or end it. Whichever route you choose, choose it deliberately, and don't act on feeling alone. Feelings, no matter how intense, are based on assumptions that are often highly subjective and may prove to be unrealistic, unuseful, or untrue.



A person who chooses to be in a relationship should be strong enough to either take responsibility to work things out or get out.



You won't even start if you expect to feel 100 percent motivated or certain. Once you know where you both stand, take a hard look at the situation.

An encounter with your Ex and his new flame? No problem!

Meeting your Ex with his new love may be the most dreadful thing to happen, especially if you’re the one who’s still single. Yes, you may have moved on but let’s admit it, it still is uncomfortable seeing him with his new girlfriend. It’s natural to feel thrown off-balance but if you can show them you’re over him, you will regain self assurance. How is that done? Enasha helps you gain control of the situation with the following pointers.

A bold introduction
Hold your bag in your left hand so that your other is free to shake theirs. Introduce yourself first so that they will have to follow your lead. Say Hello with a big smile and then relax your face into its natural, happy position. Don’t overdo the smiles otherwise you might get caught!

Confidence is your weapon
Stay on top of the conversation by asking questions and at all times maintain eye-contact. The secret to the perfect eye contact is to increase it when you’re listening and decrease it when you’re talking. Also divide eye contact between both your Ex and his new Girl so that you don’t give away your nervousness.

Stand tall and strong
Your body posture should be such that reveals that you’re comfortable with the situation. Putting your hands on your hips could mean you’re still bitter while using your bag as a cover could imply that you’re trying to hold your emotions from spilling out. Standing straight and letting your hands fall free by your side gives off the message that you’re cool with the situation.

The perfect exit
People form an opinion of you within the first 4 minutes of meeting you, so it’s better not to hang around. As you tell them you need to make a move, touch his new girlfriend on her forearm to make it clear that you are the one who has decided the little meeting has come to an end.


As you walk away you’ll feel good about yourself for making the perfect impression on your Ex’s new girl and on him!

WhyyThings Change In The Relationships?

Firstly I must say that things don't change but people change. Let me explain to you why I said so.

In the beginning of a relationship where or when "boy meets girl" everything is exciting. A lot is focused on looks, how do I look or I got to make sure he or she likes what I am wearing and always looking attractive. Right! That normally goes on for about 3 months to 6 months and then it stops until as a couple you going out for dinner or some special occasion.

Now six months later things start to become boring and dead and the relationship don't seem to be exciting any more. You ask, "Why is that happening?" The reason is like before in the beginning of the relationship you both made an effort to dress to impress each other. Why not 6 months down the line or even a year into the relationship you do the same as in the beginning?

Keep the excitement going and growing, keep each other excited about wanting to be around each other. But in all that excitement always keep the communication aspect of the relationship open or on going.

Ok back to keeping the excitement going. Bear this in mind that when a woman walks down the street looking sexy maybe with short a short skirt on or even looking sophisticated with some high hill shoes or flat ones, you find that a woman will catch a man looking or steering. Even women will look and make a comment in her mind or to her boyfriend or husband. You get the point! Well it is simple because we get attracted to these things because it is eye catching.

So why not take this same concept and apply it in your daily routine at home. Women when your man walks in from work or where ever he was and comes into the house, stop what you are doing (like watching soaps) and greet him with a great big hug and a nice passionate kiss and whisper in his ears "baby you know I miss you today, I was thinking about you all day I couldn't get you out of my head and was getting really excited" then smile or chuckle and kiss him again. Its all about the art of seduction Do you see where I am going with this and what I am talking about?

Change your style of dressing on a weekly basis or daily if you can. It doesn't have to be buying lingerie, just wear something sexy. A nice short skirt or some short pants or even go as far as wearing one of his vest or shirts. I leave you to imagine the possibilities. The reason to all this is to help keep the excitement up and he will not get tired of seeing or get use to seeing you in the same old clothes everyday.

That will keep his heart racing and he will be thinking of you and what might happen or will see you in when he comes home. But don't start dressing to sexy and then taking that sexiness out of the house because you know what he will be saying. Once you start going out like this all he will be thinking of or make you look like you doing is looking for attention just like those women out there that do it. What you need to concentrate on is how to keep your boyfriend or husband attracted to you at all times. Keep up the excitement.

Oh yea, women please, please take good care of yourself, keep looking sexy for him, keep fit, keep that figure which attracted him in the first place and better yet look hotter than ever. Don't let your body go and start putting on weight. Think of it if your man met you while you were slim, fit and looking sexy which is what attracted him why would you allow yourself to change. Six months or more years down the line when you start asking yourself or telling him that he doesn't look at you anymore or why is he all of a sudden looking at other women the way you want him to. Then ask yourself what you are not doing right. So keep in mind its all about excitement. Keep him excited at all times.

I know you will say that that you got a lot on your mind and you haven't got time and you got no money to spend. But trust me if you were single and in the same situations and was dating you would find the money or a way to look your best and look sexy. You don't always have to buy to look sexy and be exciting. Be creative. Not having you man interested in you is even more stressful. So please take hid and start making things more exciting in the relationship starting today. It is never too late. I guarantee you an exciting change will be noticeable in his interest from the day you start.

So you ask, "what about him, doesn't he have to make an effort to?" Ah ha, I thought you would never ask. Of course he has to make an effort with his self because if he doesn't the woman will start having wondering eyes. All I have to say is men keep the sexy handsomeness, keep fit, make that body look solid and treat your woman right and she is yours forever. Don't be lazy and always into those video game, staying out late without her or always with your friends or just sit on the couch and drink all day and paying no attention to your woman. Your woman is yours to keep so make the effort, if not someone else will have her and you don't want that if you love her. If you don't love her let her go.